The Simple Guide to Ring Bearer Duties

There are many expected roles for a wedding. We know about the groom. And we know about the bride. Of course the maid of honor and the best man. One role we don't know about is the ring bearer. In this article, I'm going to teach you about the duties of the ring bearer and current weddings

A Boy Who Carries The Rings To The Altar

The ring bearer is a direct name for his role. That is to carry the ring down the aisle to the altar. It is a young male between the ages of five and ten. Any younger and you may have trouble having them pay attention or they may get fussy. Any older and they lose the cute factor. 

And the last thing I know I would've wanted to do as a teenager is have been a ring bearer.

This is why those ages between five and ten are the perfect range.

Young enough where the audience will still think they're cute. Yet old enough to be able to follow direction. Let's next take a look at how you choose who should be a ring bearer.

The Ring Bearer Should Be The Son Of A Close Friend Or Relative

As with all members of your wedding party, the ring bearer should be somebody you are close to. It could be the son of a sibling, a cousin or a friend. This way you will have a special memory and bond with this person for the rest of your life. Though you could go break from tradition and have a girl play this role. Yet make sure they stand on the proper side.

Boys Go To The Groom - Girls Go To The Bridesmaids

If you have a boy ring bearer then he will stand on the groom side. If you have a girl then she will stand next to the bridesmaids. This is also where we should mention it's popular to use a dog as a ring bearer. If you go this route, make sure it's being lead on a leash. And the sex of the leash-holder will determine which side the dog can stand. Next you need to figure out how you will carry the ring.

Carry The Rings On A Pillow Or ...

In tradition, the ring rests on a pillow in the hands of the ring bearer. Yet it is another opportunity for creativity. For example, if the couple met playing softball then put it on a softball glove. You can also put it in a box. Or a ring dish or a ring pillow. I also saw a cute banner they could carry down the aisle. The reason why you might have them carry a banner is that you can avoid them losing the rings. But there is another way to avoid risk losing the rings.

The Ring Bearer Carries Fake Rings

Just like with the wedding cake there are tricks you can play with the rings. A great way to stress out of your wedding is to give your rings to a five year. I barelytrust myself to hold them. Put fake rings on the ring bearer pillow or box.  This way if disaster strikes and the little tyke loses the rings there is no real harm done. Instead, the best man or the maid of honor can carry the real rings.

Give Them Their Own Gift

When the wedding is over make sure you reward them. Give them their own gift. I would recommend two gifts. One gift can be serious for the mom. That is the keepsake that can be commemorative. But there should be a fun gift. A toy. That way they will be immediately happy. And have something to remember for later when they are older.

The ring bearer is a popular role in every wedding. And it's a great way to allow young people who are close to you to be part of your wedding. Or if you are a pet parent it's a great way for your pets the be part of your wedding. The maid of honor or best man has the real rings. While the ring bearer carries nice looking but fake jewelry. I hope you have an amazing wedding ceremony.  And that you now have a better idea of how to use a ring bearer in your own wedding.

This article was written by Mark Wilcox. If you would like more wedding tips like this then please visit